Tonight, make a drink for someone else in the house. Do not ask what they want first. Just bring it.
A monk arrived at an old teacher’s temple. The teacher asked whether he had been there before. Yes, said the monk. Go and drink tea, said the teacher. A second monk arrived and said no, never. Go and drink tea, said the teacher. The man who kept the temple accounts asked why both got the same answer. The teacher called his name, he answered, and the teacher said: you too — go and drink tea.
Old friend, stranger, the person who does the books. Same tea.
Who in your house gets the shortest version of you?
The kindest thing in a room is the one that does not first check who deserves it.